It is often said that we should treat others the way we ourselves want to be treated. I agree with that. However, I think we could at least equally benefit by treating ourselves the way we wish to be treated by others. If I regularly indulge in self-deprecating humor, how much easier do I make it for someone else to put me down? If all I give voice to are my faults and shortcomings, how soon before others also see me as far less than I truly am? If I often apologize for who I am, my very nature, how long before people are sorry they met me or worse… sorry for me?
On the flip side, if I recognize my intrinsic value without having to pretend I have no flaws to do so, how much more likely will others accept me as a complete person – one with flaws that don’t taint my loveliness and one with virtues that don’t erase my weaknesses ? If I take time for myself, will others be more apt to make time for me – perhaps see my time as something to be prized, not to be squandered or taken for granted but to be appreciated when I share some with them? If I hold myself in high esteem, my whole self, and walk through life with confidence and awareness will I draw like-minded people who will be more likely to treat me as they see me treat myself?
All that is “right” about me sits shoulder to shoulder with all that is “wrong.” But there are times when my splendid qualities are so overwhelming, such a confident beast, that my ugly imperfections bow down in the absence of any other choice, even take a slumber in the bosom of my beauty and are nearly forgotten. And, sometimes it’s the other way around. But some of my ugliest days are the ones when I am cruel to myself – when I am teaching someone else that less than the best is good enough for me. I believe I deserve better than that from me. Don’t you deserve better from you?